“Gosh! I look fat! I need to keep fit!” I claimed out loud to a friend of mine.

“You? Fat? Nah. You look good enough. Besides, you dont have to worry if you are fat. You are already taken! You dont have to worry anymore if you dont look good enough to get someone!” He replied.

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I realized that alot of people out there think this way; that you dont have to take care of yourself once you are attached. I find it so not true. When you are in a relationship, it is not about looking good to get someone better. It is about looking good for your partner. And vice versa. This is what I believe.

I believe that even if you have a partner in your life, you still need to take good care of yourself, be it physically, or emotionally, in health, and inner strength. Eventhough we have someone to rely on, we still need to know how to take care of ourselves too, isnt it?

We all grow everyday. Everyday is about learning in our life. Everyday is about getting to know each other better. Everyday is about changing our perspectives, adapting to the environment.

Just like in a relationship. We learn about the relationship everyday. We learn to love, to care, to be angry, to forgive, to advance and learn to take 1 step ahead together. If we decided to slack, thinking, “ahh..we dont have to do so much anymore! He/she is mine now anyway!”, and continue to react around this statement, I believe one day, our partner will find us incompetent to him/her.

Who wants to be with incompetent partner? You wouldnt want your wife to neglect her appearance after marriage (by choice)? Neither do we want our husbands to be slack and watch football and grow horizontally everyday!!! Ok. Physical appearance aside, bear enough, we cant bring him/her out to meet our colleagues, the mentality level differs so much that it is not the same as “once upon a time”, thus, we cant communicate anymore, and then suddenly we start to think, “how to survive together to “till our last breath” if we cant even talk to each other?”

Who ever say relationship is easy (boy meet girl, boy like girl, girl like boy. Voila! Happy ever after!)? I say, relationship is all about learning. We keep learning everyday, discovering ways to be with each other, experimenting different ways to express our feelings.  

And having reasons not to take care of yourself is just plain ignorant and selfish. I bet nobody wants to be with someone who dont even know how to take care of themselves.  (“How is he/she going to take care of me if he/she doesnt even know how to take care of himself/herself?”)

Relationship is about responsibilities towards ourselves, our partner, and our life together. It is not as simple as “You love me”, and “I love you”. It is about how we water the seed together. And how we want it to grow beautifully in the future. 

But asides all those, being in a relationship is beautiful. Especially when it is filled with love, care and trust.